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| I’m looking for some answers, hope and support for YOPD. My (now ex) bf, 39, was recently diagnosed. Up to this date our relationship was rocky of selfish behaviors. Many arguments. Now he has dumped me to date. Not that his prior behavior was any different. He also fights a bingeing type alcoholism. Reading up on what to expect I was wondering if these are common before and during YOPD. He has not started medication and we were together just short of 2 years. I still care and once committed to being a supportive caregiver. |
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Hello, hereforhelp. Parkinson's can, in some cases, cause mood swings, depression, anger or irritability. But those things can be caused by other things too, like alcoholism or just having a difficult personality. It sounds like your relationship was difficult for a long time. That's not good for you and may not be good for your partner, either. Some people, even though they may love each other, just aren't compatible. Your wish to help does you credit, but sometimes it's just not possible to help people who don't want to accept it. Since your ex is recently diagnosed, he probably doesn't need any intense caretaking right now. Now is probably the time to find out whether you can continue a supportive friendship at all. If he can't control his selfishness and alcohol use, then trying to continue any kind of relationship is probably not a good idea. I'm sorry; that's probably not what you want to hear. But Parkinson's is a long and difficult road, and it's not fair to you to go down that path with someone who is not going to respect you or keep your welfare in mind. He seems to want to end your relationship now, and you may just have to let him make that choice. |
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@junipersage Thank you. Yes I wanted to hear the was all the disease and he’s just scared. But I know it doesn’t start to excuse some of the behaviors. This is still raw breakup pain. But any answers I try to find to sooth my heart is directed to completely different life situations, like we have been through the past 6 months. I also know his road could be bumpy and to find someone understanding somewhat of his needs isn’t the same as supporting without diagnosis. My grandmother had PD and my mother had early dementia. Thank you for your reply. It is sensible and helped me pull back and look. |